When a baby learns how to walk, we don’t expect him to stand and do it’s first steps right away.
We know he will fall down.
Instead of feeling bad for him,
we encourage him to get up and start again.
So he tries again.
And fall down again.
After some practise, he will manage to do a few steps, yet will still fall down afterwards.
This is how we appreciate a baby’s progress, looking at:
- how many steps he does before falling down
- how fast he gets up to start again
We all went through this process.
Over time, we tend to walk longer before the fall.
And we tend to get up faster after the fall.
Yet we know the fall still always happens.
This is a mindset we lose later on in our life.
Instead, we end up waiting forever before deciding to start something new.
Then, we take quite some time to prepare ourselves,
before finally giving it a shot, expecting to succeed right away.
Failing, in those conditions, is damaging.
Because of the long preparation, and the high expectations.
However, when all what matters is to get up, and try again to do 1% better before the next fall, there is no reason to feel bad.
It’s not about failing or not anymore.
It’s about how better you do before failing.
And how quick you get up, and try again, after failing.
Don’t avoid failure, just fail better.